Some psychologists even recommend looking away as a strategy to help young children answer questions.Īnother documented effect of mutual gaze may help explain why that moment of eye contact across a room can sometimes feel so compelling. You may have experienced these effects first hand, perhaps without realising, whenever you have broken eye contact with another person so as to better concentrate on what you are saying or thinking about. Similar research has found that meeting the direct gaze of another also interferes with our working memory (our ability to hold and use information in mind over short periods of time), our imagination, and our mental control, in the sense of our ability to suppress irrelevant information. The researchers think this effect occurred because eye contact – even with a stranger in a video – is so intense that it drains our cognitive reserves. Crucially, the volunteers struggled much more at the word challenge (but only for the trickier nouns) when the face in the video appeared to be making eye contact with them. Volunteers looked at a video of a face while simultaneously completing a word challenge that involved coming up with verbs to match various nouns (to take an easy example, if they heard the noun ‘milk”, a suitable response would be “drink”). Consider a recent study by Japanese researchers. Not surprisingly, the drama of realising we are the object of another mind is highly distracting. In fact, even looking at a portrait painting that appears to be making eye contact has been shown to trigger a swathe of brain activity related to social cognition – that is, in regions involved in thinking about ourselves and others. You may have noticed these effects particularly strongly if you’ve ever held the intense gaze of a monkey or ape at a zoo: it is almost impossible not to be overcome by the profound sensation that they are a conscious being judging and scrutinising you. In consequence, we become more conscious of that other person’s agency, that they have a mind and perspective of their own – and, in turn, this makes us more self-conscious. Also, meeting someone’s gaze almost immediately engages a raft of brain processes, as we make sense of the fact that we are dealing with the mind of another person who is currently looking at us. But psychologists and neuroscientists have been studying eye contact for decades and their intriguing findings reveal much more about its power, including what our eyes give away and how eye contact changes what we think about the other person looking back at us.įor instance, a recurring finding is that gazing eyes grab and hold our attention, making us less aware of what else is going on around us (that ‘fading to grey’ that I mentioned earlier).

This much we already know from our everyday experiences.

And when we pass strangers in the street or some other public place, we can be left feeling rejected if they don’t make eye contact. We make assumptions about people’s personalities based on how much they meet our eyes or look away when we are talking to them. Of course, eye contact is not always so exciting – it’s a natural part of most casual conversations, after all – but it is nearly always important. It’s almost like a scene out of the movies – the rest of the world fades to grey while you and that other soul are momentarily connected in the mutual knowledge that they are looking at you and you at them. You’ve doubtless had the experience when, across a noisy, crowded room, you lock gazes with another person.

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